I wish you answers. I envy all your girlfriends, because you acknoleged their pain.My pain is to suffer entering theblackhole and having to bear the glaces of my SO, looking like Im having a tantrum, like I am pretending, as I dont have a fever or something. He started changing we had an argument one time and he cut all way from his wrist to his elbow, I couldnt leave him I had to ditch my mam to see if he was okay before he went to work. She tried attempting suicide few times.Even I am loving her lot but could not make her understand.she always wants me to be around my arms! Like everything was depending on something else, like it was fragile structure. My partner's negativity gets me down A happy, optimistic man is brought down by the relentless negativity of his partner. She is very complexed about her weight, her mental issues and the time she has lost in her life. Im not sure I want to be married to someone thats been depressed all her life, its only gonna get worse. But you're dragging me down, yeah. She talks like Im the only good thing in her life and I believe she truly feels that way. I am not an expert in the world of women but if there is anything I have learned it is that women feel a whole range of emotions and only show/tell a few (or none). Start praying to God, together with your girlfriend. I would stand everything for her, but she doesnt seem to care, and it kills me from the inside. "My problem is that since we have moved in together, she is negative about everything." My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. Good luck! She didnt want to go to my graduation. I am very caring, soft spoken and outspoken. That sounds like my issue too. But you're dragging me down, down, down, down. The couple times I have plucked up the courage to leave she has done drastic forms of self harm. She will feel a million times worse than you what about how the other side feel and how they cant cope but just have to sit and wait for them to snap out of by the time they snap out of it they could be going to their partners funeral or word they wont be able to then look after their partner. Im having similar issues as many of you aforementioned. Well i have a very depressed girlfriend that i am dating at this moment which i do really love her which she is always unhappy when i go over her house. I am fine with this, every self respecting man yearns for space of his own, so to me this was the perfect recipe. I hate her anxiety. Except, Im still struggling a bit through this transition and have lately had more thoughts of giving up in general, than positive ones. Once you enter your information, youll be directed to a list of therapists and counselors who meet your criteria. I love her so much and wish I could take her pain away, but I feel ive lost myself and no longer feel happy. I almost lost my identity and values. But, my girlfriends depression and self loathing is disgusting. All I could do is be the best boyfriend a girl could have. I told her that i love her and i would never leave her, i forgave her cuz she lied to me, i told her that if i was with right now i would give her a hug and a kiss. Good luck and remember the love bit. Dont worry too much about your girlfriend saying that you shouldnt talk to her anymore. I can know no one would have got solution. I completely changed from confident cheeky fit guy to someones whose fat, very low self esteem and broken. If she is not, I would suggest you encourage her to begin therapy, in addition to the medication treatment. On my side my family is going through a very rough time and were worried about losing our home, Im going through a quarter-life crises where I dont know what I studied is the right thing for me, Im also really worried about my future because I dont know where Im heading in life. But I really just wanted to Thank You for your post. You might also want to look for a caretakers support group. He has put me last every time. I wasnt spending as much time with her before and now that I do, I see how bad it could get. And probably you wonder why I use past tense when I write. It is sad, my girlfriend has depression and hates to go out. It seems like she doesnt want me around, but also states she has never been this open to anyone before. So are yours always casting concerned looks? You couldnt survive being a total mess a hundred years ago and Shes my best friend, but I worry that shes not able to plan a life with me or be an equal partner in the relationship. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. I once found out my girlfriend was talking to some other guy. Life is can be cruel, tough and deceiving. If you have trouble finding a professional in your area, dont be discouragedit may mean youll have better luck doing a Google search or asking for a referral from a trusted health professional, such as your doctor. She has lost sleep all night, and so did I. Our arguments are born out of nothing, she wants me to do as she wishes and doesnt believe in personal space, family commitments, having ambitions and achievoing dreams. She is in a constant state of less sad at the best of times. Everything is my fault according to her. Trying to fix it on yours own either no optional. Hugs. When we first met she experienced severe triggers and dissociative states, which led to her being unable to finish her degree, something she carries a great deal of shame from. Those are the moments you should be focusing on, that is the person that youre in a relationship with. You're so tired. This is verbatim my situation. I feel like she is using me even though I take care of her. We r loving since 5-6 years! Then to know she will react & get angry is so wrong. Dear Armand, Im not saying what will happen, only what very possibly can. Right now, we value the future of our child more than anything else. My girlfriend is dragging me back into depression with her own personal problems. Also, it is very important that a psychiatrist, and not a general practitioner, be managing her medication. Setup File Name: Adobe_Premiere_Pro_v23.2..69.rar. Be found at the exact moment they are searching. In fact, research has shown that this feeling of insecurity may boost levels of a stress hormone, and can even lower your immune system, according to Kathleen Doheny on WebMD.com. "Relationships characterized by constant conflict, fighting, and lack of forgiveness are a recipe for disaster," Opperman says. So I fight. hello, I am this depressed girl, It takes a huge amount of love to do that. Ad by TruthFinder Have you ever googled yourself? She felt distanced by me, but in no way did i feel any different toward her. We have to get our sh#t together or be ok with being alone and broke or God forbid settle for the girl were all here talking about. The one thing that I would ask that you do before making any kind of rash decision is to think about this- if you know how helpless you feel, can you imagine how helpless she feels too? Im not sure whats going on but I let her know constructively that I considered leaving her I know its harsh but it was a reality check. I feel im depressed, asking myself was actually our sexlife good becuase she was drinking, and that the person im with now has no interest in sex at all? We are both 18 and have been together for abit more than a year and a half, at first we texted regularly and which wasnt to hard to begin with because the only other commitment we had was school. She likes me to stay home with here all the time. In her weekly column, JOAN LONG, a Bishopstown psychologist and psychotherapist, answers readers' queries. Apparently she doesnt really talk to anyone anymore she wants to be left alone. I'm not sure how to begin so I guess I'll start from the beginning. All efforts made on my part were in vain. She did not want to fight, and when I thought finally thing would become better, she just said that she did not have time or energy to focus on the relationship, and wanted to focus on herself. As Dr. Sylvie Stacy said on Livestrong.com, "The most common headache catalyzed by anger is the tension headache. Subscribe me to the GoodTherapy.org public newsletter. This girl was everything I wanted, such a good partner, listener, so smart, sensitive. When the relationship isn't secure, however, you might feel this nagging sense of jealousy towards everything and everyone. When asked I would avoid the answer because I really didnt know, and when forced, probably I would put the blame on someone else or act with aggression. A few months ago she began self harming, and I apparently did something to upset her and she started talking about how she was going to commit suicide because of it. She was not like this when we first met. Than it all started to fade, she had weekly outbursts after we met, we had a lovely weekend, then, the other day, she was always very depressed or even aggressive, treating herself very badly, being jealous on my friends, depreciating herself. Let she feels that you are proud of her. I was in shock but I have on other option than to fight. My Girlfriend's Depression Is Bringing Me Down. She says its her medication but shes been on it since the age of 15 and shes 45 now, Im 42 I knew I had a little depression here and there and a bit of self destructive I dont want to go to work kinda lazy crap going on. Step by step. Or sit down and plan something new to try. My Friend Is Draining Me! Thank you for reaching out. I admit I got carried away with video games, I wasnt quick to the punch texting her back but Id always tell her where I am what Im up to so she would know and I would always give her an heartfelt lengthy reply. We dont really have many, if any, moments of romance anymore. SO IF YOU HANG AROUND PEOPLE LIKE THIS YOU WILL TAKE ON THEIR THINKING AND HABITS MAKE NO MISTAKE ABOUT IT. Am I giving up too quickly, am I weak, am I selfish I really dont know what I should do or feel right now. my health is declining. Any thoughts or suggestions would be sincerely appreciated. If I talk in a neutral tone or raise my voice even slightly she says I am scary and becomes inconsolable. First, try and make an attempt to be supportive. Or maybe it's because your partner is jealous, or mean, or absent. I started to be rude and aggressive. She has issues with everyone including mine and her family. Shes gone to therapy, but currently not going. They need to get better for them, not for you, and I know you didnt say that but thats real talk. This is important: I have to tell you you will not find the cure, you can be there and support but please stop believing that it will make the problem go away. It may be subtle behaviors such as never showing an interest in you or socializing with your friends, or it could be outright insults that damage your sense of self-worth. I have become very weary, weak and helpless toward her, every piece of support I give her is taken with offence, as an insult of her character or some other negative quam brewed inside her hyperactive mind. Ive been with my girl for over 4 months now, but we have been good friends for more than 7 years. If so, then high blood pressure may not be far behind. Its extremely helpful to be able to read something from the person suffering from depression. I forgave her and forgot all of that. I am moved by how exactly you also spoke for myself Wish we could go for a beer. There are so ways people find happiness and you guys both just need to find yours and you need to know that one day.. You will. (Not married) "More importantly, there is balance in the relationship. The text is most likely a part of an image, then. deep thoughts in my head And they just keep dragging me down there down so deep Dragging me down so deep Dragging me down so deep Dragging me down so. But i just seem lost and i need answers, idk if i was harsh and Im totally new at this so Im sorry if i was being harsh and all but plz help. You say that they dont chose to become depressed no they dont but they can choose to help themselves. There is so many thoughts and circumstances for a girl. Ive explained my feelings in the past and she says she understands but makes no difference. Good Luck!! 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